Big People, Small Talk

I was at an office get together meant only for ladies the other evening and only one of my friends from work showed up to the gathering. I pretty much didn't know anyone else there & after an awkward start to the evening, well, there was more awkwardness to come..

So, I was stuck there and I had two hours to kill. Frankly speaking, I am getting good at making small talk now a days, but given a choice I would just shut up & sit in a corner. Sometimes it just wows me how lame people can get while making conversation with someone for the first time. And hey, that includes me too (well you just run out of things to talk after a while!). Some people can say really inappropriate stuff when making small talk. There was this German guy I met on a business trip and he started talking about Jews and Nazis. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry at his jokes. Some things like religion & politics should be just kept off the table. Back to the evening, we started with a round of drinks and this 50 something lady joins us and goes "I am ready to let my hair down!". I thought to myself, "Well, old girl, you might feel 22, but this is not the place!". And then she & a younger woman at the table engaged in the most inappropriate topic, i.e.thongs. I was scared while listening to that conversation, dare she mention her thongs! I don't even wanna imagine how would the 50 something lady look in a thong. You know stuff gets saggy once you grow older.

After the cursory hi's, hellos & how are you's, I just kept sipping at my Sprite, listening and observing other people. After a few moments of silence, I looked at my watch, one and a half hours to go. The woman next to me asked if I was married. I replied in affirmative. Then she asked me where did my husband work. I replied XYZ company. She goes, "What does he do there?". I reply, "He's an Operations engineer". She again asks me,"Oh, how did he end up there?". I thought to myself, "Shut up already, how much more information do you need?". But I politely satisfied her curiosity. And that was the end of it. What is she going to do with all that information? Does she care? No! That's what I hate about making small talk! Its pointless, it doesn't get you anywhere. Whenever I see someone coming down the hallway, I would just like to say "Hi" with a smile and get over with it. But the extended, "Hi, how is it going?" or "Hello, how are you doing? How was your weekend?" is a tad bit too much for me. I don't care how your weekend was, especially if you are just an acquaintance, I am just glad I didn't have to see your face!

After reading the above, don't get me wrong. I am interested in people who are genuinely interested in me & care about me, but the others I could do without them. As the evening progressed, I began spending more & more time on my cell phone. Checking Facebook, although there were no updates, I checked it 10 times already. Don't say you have never done that. I know there's a Facebook page many of you have liked, "Pulling out your phone when your alone in public". Am I right? I texted some friends and told them how suffocated I was feeling and that they made the right choice to not be a part of this gathering. Then came our orders, actually their orders. I didn't order any food as I thought we were only doing drinks.So, there I was, feeling awkward, the only one who didn't order food. I was like no one's gonna remember my name. Instead, they will remember me as the girl who didn't eat anything that night. So, I increased my cell phone activity. In the background I could hear the cutlery clinking against the plates and the "oh my god, the food is delicious" repetitions!

I looked at my watch again. 45 minutes more to go. The dinner was almost coming to an end. And then suddenly, two men from work crashed the "party". And all the ladies went gaga over the two men. Yeah, thats right, talk some more about people & things I don't know of. I mean, come on people, you already bored me for the last hour, talking about your experiences I know nothing of. How about discussing on a common topic? Just for the sake of courtesy? We are all just making small talk anyway, innit? The guys ordered oysters so that gave me & and the girl sitting in front of me  something to talk about. She probably realized that I was uncomfortable and started sharing her likings & dislikings about seafood. That went on well for a while, and then suddenly the 50 something old lady got up to leave. I thought thats my opening to escape. But then she again sat in her chair. Then another girl got up and started to leave. Phew! I got up and buttoned up my coat & quickly thanked everyone for the great evening & walked towards the door.

As I stepped out the door, and took in the fresh air, I felt so much better. All the suffocation, the discomfort disappeared instantly. I cranked up the car's engine & drove away into the darkness.

Have you ever been in such a situation? Care to share?

Broken Wings

I soared in the bright blue sky
Towards the shining sun
But one look at you & I was spellbound
My fate took a U-turn

I followed you everywhere I could
Did everything I could for you
But all you did was clip my wings
And suddenly all my nightmares came true

With no one to hold me
I fell prey to gravity
Faster and deeper
Out of my broken dream,into reality

Chugging along the long & winding path
Don't care where I am going
Sometimes into the future, sometimes into the past
With a heavy heart & my broken dreams

Emmy Awards 2012

In anticipation of this year’s Emmy’s, here’s a recap of the best & the worst dressed at last year’s Emmy Awards.

First,  the beautiful Heidi Klum in an Alexander Vaulthier dress. Can you believe it that she is a mother of two? Or more?  The hair, the dress, the high heels, all ooze of elegance! There’s no way she could top this look, ever!

                                     

Next, is Julia  Louis-Dreyfus in a stunning, burgundy Vera Wang gown. The dress is very age appropriate and looks so refined and lady like on her. Such a unique piece!
                                     

 My next favourite is January Jones in a Zac Posen dress. Oh, I simply love the way the dress twists and twirls around her figure. Her whole getup is so simple and yet, it managed to get so much attention. Well, another thing that did catch everyone’s attention was the piece of hair sticking put. Come on, Miss Jones, moose up!

My next favourite girl on the red carpet would be Kat Dennings in a hot red J. Mendel dress. I agree its a little bit slutty but, there are 3 things I like about her in this dress. One is, that she looks so confident, she looks like she owns the red carpet. And the other two, need I mention? ;-)

                                               

Now, this one’s my personal favourite. It’s definitely a very unique Monique Lhuillier dress and what’s more, its orange! I love it that she has paired the perfect pair of Christian Louboutin shoes with this dress. If I had my way, I would have those puppies stocked, in every shade in my closet.  The only thing I don’t like about this whole look is Ginnifer Goodwin. I bet Lucy Hale would have rocked this dress.

                        

                   

The next hot babe on the red carpet was Lucy Liu in a steely look! Her dress was designed by Versace and, I sincerely say that no one else would have carried that dress better than Lucy Liu. I mean, to begin with, it was tailored right, even in the 100 degrees humid weather, she carried it the heavy-heavy dress so elegantly, except once when Zoey Deschanel’s dress got caught in hers, but wait; that’s not the reason why Zoey’s dress was all raggety. We will come back to that later.

Sofia Vergara in a Zuhair Murad dress totally rocked it. I think it was because of her that it was so hot at the Nokia theatre. I mean, when she shook her booty for the cameras; wow! Someone would have thought that the dress would be too tacky for a 40 year old, but no, she proved us all wrong.

Zuhair Murad is one of my favourite designers. Here are few of his pieces you should take a look at. They will make you feel like a princess.

Moving on, we have Tina Fey in burgundy. She’s wearing a dress by Vivienne Westwood.

I always thought of Tina, as a plain Jane from 30 Rock, but she completely wowed us here!

Next, we have Sarah Hyland in Marchesa. She’s young, so she could have chosen a funkier color, although she looks great in this evening gown. Her hair look perfect, and the dress fits her so well. She collaborated with Marchesa to design this dress.

Now, frankly speaking, I did not like what Claire Danes was wearing at the Emmy’s. I am sure that, if she weren’t preggers, she would have been trashed by the critics for wearing this Lanvin frock. But, look at her I mean, this not a color that everyone can pull off! Plus, you can’t even make out that she is pregnant.

 

Padmalaxmi did a great job covering herself up in 45 yards of silk. I mean, I know she is from India, so gotta do due diligence and plus she can buy all the silk in the world with her alimony money, but she could have done better. She could have worn something fresher or a cooler colr. Anyways, she deserves a mention as she totally worked this look on the red carpet.

That sums up the best dressed list. Now, here come the worst dressed.

Up, first is Christina Hendricks in a Christian Siriano . At first, I didn’t recognize her. I thought to myself, oh my god, how did one of Hugh Hefner’s Playboy bunnies make it to the red carpet. And then it struck me, who it was. I mean come on Christina, you are the star of a leading show, you can get enough material to cover yourself up!

 

We all know, you have been greatly endowed, but the red carpet is not the best place to show those off! A lot of critics loved her dress, but all I thought was how trashy that dress is.

Next is the Rageddy Ann doll umm.. pardon me, Zoey Deschanel in a Reem Acra dress. I mean either she got into a cat fight right before the Emmy’s or she’s trying to land a part in the next Raggedy Ann movie.  And what’s with all that mascara/goop.

Emily Vancamp in a J. Mendel dress. She’s so pretty, and young. Why, why would you wear a dress like that, which does nothing to accentuate your figure? Please go ahead, and join the raggetty old maid’s club with Zoey.

 

Does anyone need gunny bags? Anybody? At all? Well, if you do, you might wanna ask Portia De Rossi for some. Apparently she has so many of them stocked in her garage, that she thought she would make a red carpet dress out of those.

Next is the gorgeous Nicole Kidman in an Antonio Berardi gown. Now, why would she wear a flashy, teenagesque dress? As if  her plastic surgeries don’t make her feel young enough?

 

Next is Christina Baranski in a “I don’t care if you call me a hooker” dress. This dress is so not age appropriate. Its too short, too flashy for a 60 year old. 

Last but not the least -I don’t know know who these women are, nor do I intend to, because they do seem to have an atrocious dressing sense. But they were definitely noticeable enough to make it to my worst dressed list.

 
Will write to you after the Emmy’s this year...

 

 

A Few Good things in Life...

The beginning of a movie..all the anticipation and the enthusiasm built up inside offers such a high!

The scent emanating from the soil after the first showers.

Dressing up like your parents when you were a kid.

Meeting your best friend after a very long time, you just can’t stop smiling J

A hot cup of tea made for you by your mom, when you are sick.

A hug from a loved one, just knowing that someone is there for you is enough.

The satisfaction gained from a selfless deed.

Listening to your favourite song after years!

True Confession

Its not the same
Even as the wind blows in the same direction
Even as the swans dance with the same perfection
Even though I want to make a confession

The yellow daisy on the hill
Waiting to be plucked, to be handed out
The brown grass, the barren lands
Waiting for the rain, to have their fill

A storm's rising, in my forlorn heart
Can't keep it in any longer
Can you tell
Even if we are miles apart

Hear me out
True is my confession
Without a doubt
It ain't a momentary indiscretion

Climb up the brown hill
Meet me near the yellow daisy
And at twilight
We celebrate love's glory