Sometimes people go thru a bad phase in their life. Again, “bad” is a relative term here. It may vary from one person to another. A bad phase could mean falling prey to an illness for one person while for the other it may mean going bankrupt. Any kind of struggle in your life has both a good and a bad impact on your psyche. You may emerge a little bit stronger after the struggle but you might have grown a little bit bitter.
If you have gone thru a really, really bad phase then you are unlikely to erase or overcome very quickly the negative feelings that are brewing inside you as a result of that ordeal. People might offer you kind words and support, but it is easier said than done to wipe out the ghosts of your past. So, what do you do? How do you come out of it? Will your sufferings alter your outlook towards life and the way you deal with people or will you be unaffected? Will you turn into a weakling or will you tread this dangerous path of life like a braveheart?
Most people I know, who have had their share of trials and tribulations haven’t made it thru. Very few people have successfully battled the ghosts of their past and are at a good place in their life. Its not necessary that those people who didn’t successfully emerge out of an ordeal are losers. Maybe it was high time that the cookie crumbled. Maybe they have had enough and can’t take it anymore. So, I say its ok to screw up for once in your life. Its ok if you make a mistake. You don’t have to be the strong one always. You don't have to be crucified for that either. Remember, during our childhood, if we were very ill, our parents would give in to most of our demands? So, if you have been going thru a hard time for long, then its ok even if you make a mistake.
No one’s perfect and no one is expected to be. Perfection=Fanaticism for me. The world might judge you for straying from your path or not bearing your responsibilities properly. But who are these people that judge you? Instead of just pointing fingers at you, if they looked inside themselves, they would understand how shallow they are. If all the right doors are closed for you, it is ok to go and knock on the wrong one once in a while. We didn’t ask to be born. We have been given this life without a choice and we have to live it whether we like it or not. If your life is already miserable, indulge yourself once in a while in some guilty pleasure!
GO AHEAD AND MAKE THAT MISTAKE, EVEN IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GUILTY! YOU DESERVE SOME HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE..HOW ELSE ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE IT?
welll, this article goes to say "a mistake can probably make you 'feel' better, when u r in a miserable life"... but probably it can only make u 'feel' better but not may not result in a better life, it may also make life more miserable later ;) !! A perfectionist is always looking for the right way to do things or a better way of doing the same thing... a Fanatic is may do whatever it takes to satisfy his fanaticism.. isnt it ?
ReplyDeletea perfectionist could be fanatic about being perfect, but a fanatic can never be a perfectionist ! i leave it at that :D
BTW.. Wish u a very happy women's day ! Indulge !!!
Sorry for d late reply..thanks for d wishes.
DeleteSecondly, what if u hv been screwed so bad in life that u hav given up and lost all hope that u will evr b happy again, u cn screw up n do whatevr makes u happy rite?
Great writing. People will say "whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" but it is true that it takes a lot of mental strength to deal with any kind of setback.
ReplyDeleteOf course it is okay to mess up and I will say if you don't, you haven't pushed your boundaries. Stay hungry. Stay foolish.
hey thanks! i agree stay hungry, stay foolish..
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