The Dating Cheat Sheet

Before I begin this post, I would like all my readers to note that this blog post is not about anybody specific. It is just good advice for all the newbies.

It may be the first time you are going to ask someone out or the last time. You maybe a (he, she) couple or a ( she, she) couple or a (he, he) couple.

She could be fat. He could be a geek.

She could be loud. She could love the color black.  

He could be an introvert. He could be outspoken.

I think those are enough examples. You must have gotten the point by now.

Rule #1: No one’s perfect.

If you keep that in mind, I think you are all set. You would make a very understanding partner. There are always some habits of our partners that we don’t like. But it is those quirks/habits that makes them unique. And trust me, you don’t want your partner to be like anybody else’s ! Just like you wouldn’t want wearing the same dress  as someone else! So, we have to learn to accept the trivial quirky stuff.  And no, don’t compromise, just be tolerant. And if you ever think, that the grass is greener on the other side, go and test the other side. You would be quite wrong.

You might already be in a relationship. Say it’s been a year or maybe even 5. As time and your relationship progresses, you come to know more things about your partner. Life puts you thru various challenges. Difficult circumstances sometimes change a person.

Rule#2: Remember, change is the only constant in life. It applies to all living & non –living things in this universe.

For instance, your partner may have lost a parent or is facing a midlife crisis or is out of a job. Something like this would definitely change a person’s perspective towards life. Accept this change and move forward hand in hand.

Gestures are always more effective than words. Else why would snubbing someone be more insulting than swearing at a person? Jokes apart, if you partner is sick, you would tend to him/her. No matter how busy your schedule is, make sure that you make time for your partner. To show that you care, you don’t have to go out of your way and make a big statement. It could be as simple as helping with the housework (Men, take a hint) or suggesting changes to a presentation.   

Rule #3: Say & do the right things at the right time.

No one likes to show up alone at a party and have people bug you endlessly about the whereabouts of your latter half. Oh yeah, people have the tendency to get on your nerves by asking you really stupid questions about such things. Even after you have answered their questions satisfactorily by saying he/she is sick and at home, they will still keep babbling “Why” over and over again! So, make the effort, make the appearance, go the extra mile, be kind & thoughtful, not because you are supposed to but because you want to.

Tolerance, patience, adaptability, kindness & big, old LOVE is your guide to a successful relationship! Follow these rules and you are golden!